Responsibility, Manhood and Fatherhood

Responsibility wasn’t something I took to learning very quickly. It seemed I never got to be responsible for anything I wanted to be responsible for, only things others told me to take care of. Still, entering adulthood I believed it was best to own your mistakes if and when you make them. This belief wasContinue reading

Fathers Day

Fathers Day, for me, can be summed up in a handful of photographs. This is one of them: I’m the one on the left with graying hair and a graying beard. The two angels before me are my (step) daughters, and the formidable young men to the right are my sons. So there’s no misunderstanding,Continue reading

How Quantum Physics and Reality Strengthened Bonds With My Sons

Reality. Fathering… Combat Sports… Quantum Mechanics… Reality? Absolutely. Let me explain. I wanted my sons to know about things I am interested in. Reality and it’s nature tops my list of interests. So, I educated myself as best I could, and at least to the layman’s level on cosmology, quantum mechanics, astronomy, neuroscience, philosophy (includingContinue reading

Dealing With Adversity

Adversity is a neat little component of nearly every aspect of our lives. We find it in our workplace, in traffic, in our personal challenges, and in our relationships. It’s everywhere, even if we haven’t found it “there” yet. Without the ability and wherewithal to face and cope with adversity, we leave our safe ofContinue reading

Courage – Why Dads need it, and how to get it

Courage is a fascinating aspect of the human condition. Cultures and nations around the world honor displays of courage, and courageous people. Among my heroes in combat sports, courage is as necessary to them as all of their conditioning, sparring, and training. I’ve often felt like courage isn’t really considered when it comes to fatherhood.Continue reading

What We Can Learn From Champions

Champions of combat sports have fascinated me since I was about 3 years old. My Uncle Mike was in the professional wrestling circuit in the southeast, and even had a ring in his back yard. I don’t recall seeing him perform when I was that young, but remember thinking he was so brave for gettingContinue reading

Everyone’s A Critic

Music, and talent with it runs deep in my family. My children have it, like their father has it, and his father has it, and his father had it. Music saturates the backdrop and ambience of my childhood memories. It is also quite important to my sons. My eldest composed one of the most beautifulContinue reading

Fighting Against Hostile-Aggressive Parenting

Hostile-Aggressive parenting is another evil that often raises its head in split custody arrangements after divorce. It is one methodology used by a parent to degrade the child’s view, perception of, or thoughts about the other parent. With the absence already an issue, this method can have far-reaching and long-lasting, deleterious effects on your kids,Continue reading