Parental alienation is a nasty, nasty thing. I know from personal experience, unfortunately. Parental alienation is passive or active, and the two methods are often combined to compliment each other. The alienating parent has let their need to be right, or their pain and indignation override sound judgment. They speak negatively to their kids about the non-custodial parent, or not about them at all. They’ll get icy toward the child if the kid says they had a good time with the other parent. It isn’t always as blatant as some of the horror stories you can find. That doesn’t mean the more subtle methods aren’t equally as harmful.
This podcast is me talking about some of my experiences with parental alienation. They span back to before my ex and I were even separated all the way up unto this very moment. I’m just discussing post-split stuff this evening. Maybe I’ll cover the rest another time.
I didn’t put this out for pity, or to make anyone else look bad. This is me being real about my experience, and letting other dads know they are not alone. I want other dads to know they, too can succeed at remaining connected to their kids. They, too can maintain, and even strengthen their relationships with their kids in circumstances like these. I’m a disgruntled (but smart) veteran of this war zone. I have many scars to prove it.
Here’s a peek at a few of them.
I will not say “If I can do it, anyone can do it.” That isn’t true. A father without commitment will falter in the face of what he’s facing. A father with unquestionable commitment will tear the obstacles in front of him down, or figure out a way over, around or under them. If that’s you, then you CAN get there. I can help.
Please check out Parental Alienation (PA) Awareness to learn more about this dangerous and destructive form of child abuse. Also, if you have experience with parental alienation, or would like to express support for those of us who are dealing with it, please leave a comment.
*I’ll apologize in advance for some audio issues. I kept bumping the mic stand.